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What can we learn from these People?
12 Traits of Happy People by Sarah Stevenson
It’s often said that “money doesn't bring you happiness”……
but these 12 traits of happy people will!
Happy People Laugh
Laughter really is the best medicine for the feeling
of an unhappy life. Laughing out loud releases feel-good chemicals in your
brain, the same chemicals found in people who have a sense of joy and
well-being. Not only does laughing make you feel good, it’s also very good for
your health. Researchers from the University of Maryland Medical Center in
Baltimore found that people who suffered from cardio problems were 40 percent
less likely to laugh in situations in which people without cardio problems would.
So if you are interested in living a long, happy life, you are going to want to
specifically implement more laughable moments. Surround yourself with funny
people, watch hilarious movies that will make you chuckle, learn to take
yourself less seriously and associate with someone funny once in a while. It
doesn’t really matter which comes first…. the joy or the smile, Just put a
cheesy smile on that face of yours and laugh your way to happiness — all the
happy people are doing it!
Happy People Have a Strong Support System
Life can seem long and lonely without good
friends and family around. The research says if you want to lead a happy life,
you need a strong support system. A research project that involved almost 5,000
individuals who were followed from 1983 to 2003 found that, just like a cold, happiness is
contagious. James H. The professors that led the study, began to notice that
happy people clustered together and, unfortunately, so did unhappy people. The
people who identified themselves as friends, family, and co-workers of the
happy group were more likely to be happy themselves and continued to be happy
far into the future. The professors stated, “People’s happiness depends on the
happiness of others with whom they are connected. This provides further
justification for seeing happiness, like health, as a collective phenomenon.” Search for trustworthy friends that are
usually in a good mood and you will live a happy life regardless of how good
your bank account is.
Happy People Bounce
Resiliency is a key that unlocks the door to
happiness. Life is full of setbacks, but only discontented and disturbed people
allow those setbacks to keep them down. Someone from Research on Resilience in
Human Development said “ people who have the ability to pick themselves up and
learn and grow from their experiences perpetuate success and happiness”. Life is
full of teachable moments, and you can learn valuable lessons from your
mistakes. Bouncing back empowers you to face each obstacle that comes your way
with confidence. So next time life lets you down, pick yourself up, brush
yourself off and start over.
Happy People Look for
Looking at the world through rose-colored
glasses will lead to a happy life. The word “optimist” was taken from the Latin
word “optima” that can be translated as the best outcome and belief in the
greatest good. Dr. Martin E. P. Seligman has researched this subject for more
than 20 years and wrote a book called “Learned Optimism.” In his research he
found that optimists have a will to live and thrive. They find meaning and
purpose in each situation in life where some people become depressed. An optimist perceives setbacks as meaningful,
and they use these situations as an opportunity to grow. Purpose to see friendliness
around you. Change the way you look at life and watch it change for you. Make
it a point to notice the good things in life — your child doing their homework
without you asking, a flock of pelicans majestically flying over you or even a
smile from a complete stranger. These are all little reminders that life is a
wonderful gift to be appreciated.
Happy People Spend
Or rather they learn to enjoy spending time
alone. It can be a challenge to find some good, healthy alone time, especially
when you’re working with kids to look after. But happy people make alone time a
priority. Realize that it is not a selfish act to take time out for you; it
allows you to recharge so that you are able to give back to those around you.
Psychology Today’s Dr. Sherrie Carter states, “Taking time for yourself gives
your brain a chance to reboot, improves concentration, increases productivity,
helps you discover (or rediscover) your own voice, gives you a chance to think
deeply, and helps you problem-solve more effectively.” Next time you feel
overwhelmed with life, take a little break from the chaos. Unplug your phone,
step away from your computer. Let your friends and family know you are spending
some restorative time alone. Everyone will be happier you did.
Happy People Have a
It is not an easy task to follow your heart’s
calling -- you must be brave, resilient and not care so much what others think.
Someone who studied different cultures and religions in the world said he found
that the happiest people followed an inner calling and had a purpose in life. An inner calling is the one thing your heart
cries out for, the thing you would do even if you were never paid to do it.
Your purpose in life may include being the best parent ever, leading a group of
people in a social setting or simply enjoying life so others will do the same.
Regardless of what it is, the decision rests solely in your hands. No one can
tell you what your heart longs for and only you will have the passion to find
it. Follow your dream.
Happy People Are
Happy people perform random acts of kindness
and senseless acts of beauty. Researchers have found an interesting phenomenon
called the “Helpers High,” where people who volunteer or donate to charities
experience an actual high from the act of giving to others. There is a decrease
in blood pressure as well as activity in the reward center of the brain.
Chemicals associated with well-being such as endorphins, dopamine and oxytocin are
released into the bloodstream creating an effect similar to a drug-induced high
without the damage that drugs cause the body. The act of kindness positively
affects the one performing it, the one receiving it and anyone else who happens
to see it. So, go out there and do some good…..hey?
Happy People Live in
A well-known philosopher said it perfectly: “If
you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living
in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the moment.” All you have
is the present moment. Life is continually unfolding in front of you, offering
you a plethora of stimulating gifts. The blue sky, your laughing child, the
rain or the comforting sound of your breath can all give you a sense of
well-being and happiness. There is a prison program that offers mindfulness
classes to prisoners to promote calm and appropriate behaviors in inmates. The
executive director of the meditation manual named this project “Doing Your Time
With Peace of Mind,” that has been distributed to over 6,500 inmates. In their research, they are finding that
inmates who practice mindfulness are leaving prison calmer and more optimistic
about the future. If mindfulness can give a prisoner a better life, it can
certainly do the same for any of you.
Happy People Listen to
Music can stimulate your brain in marvelous
ways. Listen to a sad song and a memory is activated, sending teardrops to the
surface of your eyes. Listen to an upbeat song and energy surges through your
veins and a smile graces your face. In Elena Mannes book “The Power of Music,”
she unleashes 20 years of research on how music can positively affect the
brain. It can calm babies, lower blood pressure, increase feel-good chemicals
and can even help with speech for those who have had a stroke. Music is a
powerful mood-altering agent that can be used in many different ways. Light
classical music can decrease the release of cortisol in your system to help
calm you and benefit you physically. Happy music can give you an energy boost
and elevate your mood. Next time you’re feeling low, make yourself an upbeat
mixtape and sing the blues away.
Happy People Spend
Quality Time in Nature
Your earthly mother rewards you with hugs and
kisses if you come to visit – Nature rewards you with a life filled with
happiness. According to several research studies reported in Science Daily,
spending time in nature gives people vitality and a heightened sense of
well-being. Subjects for the studies were presented with different scenarios where
some saw pictures of nature, others imagined spending time in nature and some
actually walked in nature. Each subject reported feeling more lively, whether
they were out in nature or just imagining it. Another study found that patients
in hospital who simply had a view of nature from their window healed quicker,
were calmer and were released earlier than patients who had no view. Swimming
in the ocean, flying a kite in the park or taking a stroll through the forest
are all free activities that will put a spring in your step.
Happy People Exercise
Working out is something happy people have at
the top of their to-do lists usually. Researchers at Penn State University studied
190 college students over 80 days and 63 college students for 14 days. Subjects
were asked to keep a daily journal of their activities, sleep patterns and how
they felt. Results from both groups showed the amount of exercise they did each
day had a direct effect on their satisfaction with life. We don’t hear about the “runner’s high” for
nothing. Exercise increases the amount of happy chemicals released in your
brain, creating a lovely cocktail of neuro-transmitters that are sure to put a
smile on your face. Exercise also helps your digestion, keeps your heart
healthy, aids in sleep and helps you look great. So if you want to be happy and
healthy, get off that couch and go for a jog.
Happy People Get a
Good Night’s Sleep
Losing a night of sleep has got to be one of
the worst things for your mood. It’s hard to function properly when you are
tired—and even harder to smile. A professor of psychology in Los Angeles,
authored a study where 900 women were evaluated and asked to use the DRM (Day
Reconstruction Method) to describe their day. Each woman was asked her income,
marital status and number of children as well as other related questions. He
found that one of the biggest deciding factors for well-being and happiness was
the amount of sleep each woman got. Following
this study, he said that “Making $60,000 more in annual income has less of an
effect on your daily happiness than getting one extra hour of sleep a night.”
It is now obvious that money cannot buy you happiness, but maybe a healthy dose
of shut-eye can. And keeping a consistent sleep schedule is the best way to be
sure you will sleep soundly.
Can you relate with any of these and also how
Are there some that you would like to work at?
SOME COMMENTS HAVE BEEN
“I’ve often found that Happy people have a strong spiritual
connection with their creator, not to be confused with church attendance”.
These are wonderful
descriptions of a fully happy life. Sometimes there’s a certain stage in life where it is harder to
bounce back than others. However, keeping in touch with nature, spending time
alone, playing music that makes you happy definitely helps.
I like this list. Words to
try to live by.
Very true, I need to
Certainly all of these
things are true....I'm usually happier than most…. Happiness takes time to
Generally I consider myself
happy....now I know why.
I WOULD LIKE TO ADD A 2ND ARTICLE TO THIS PAGE ABOUT
SPECIAL QUALITIES IN MANY PEOPLE WHO ARE INTROVERTS
IT WILL SURPRISE YOU!
Life Lessons You Can Learn From
by Lynette Arceneaux
It may seem like the
world is dominated by extroverts -- in business, in politics, in media. They’re
often recognized in the classroom, rewarded in the office and appreciated at
parties. But don’t make the mistake of dismissing introverts as irrelevant. In
their quiet and thoughtful way, they have a lot to teach us. Introverts often
get a bad rap due to the public’s failure to fully understand the definition,
says Farrah Parker, owner and executive coach at FD Parker and Associates.
Being an introvert doesn’t mean you don’t like people or that you’re shy. “It
simply means that the way you refuel and unwind often involves peace and
solitude,” Parker says. There are quite a number of benefits to this
introspective life approach, so continue reading to find out exactly what you
can learn from introverts.
Learn to Spend Time With Yourself
Perhaps the most
important thing introverts can teach us is how to be alone with yourself, says
Tina B. Tessina, psychotherapist and author of “It Ends With You: Grow Up and
Out of Dysfunction.” Being alone doesn’t make an introvert feel lonely, and
they often have a rich inner life and satisfying hobbies. “We can all benefit
from less outer focus and more inner awareness,” Tessina says. And being an
introvert can often lead to greater self-knowledge, adds Taliba M. Foster,
board-certified child, adolescent and adult psychiatrist in her Philadelphia
private practice. “Introverts are deliberate people,” she says. “They are often
readers and thinkers. They are often those whose health decisions, for example,
are most likely formed by extensive research -- or even studying medical
journals -- as opposed to chatting with a fellow subway commuter for health
advice,” Foster says.
Relish Independent Activity
Because they enjoy
being alone, introverts tend to excel at work or activities that entail
independence or solitude. “Artists, writers, composers and inventors are often
introverted,” says Jeremy Schwartz, a psychotherapist in Brooklyn, New York.
Jobs that require a great deal of independent work are where many introverts
succeed. “They’re likely to be described as self-starters who take initiative
with minimal direction needed,” Schwartz says. “They thrive in places where
they can engage in in-depth, reflective work. Introverts are great at avoiding
distractions and focusing on what matters to them.” This trait can be practical
for certain types of fitness pursuits as well, adds psychiatrist Taliba M.
Foster. “For instance, long-distance running is quite isolating and requires
focus and discipline.”
Look Inward for Inspiration
Most introverts enjoy
exploring their thoughts and feelings, says Simon Rego, director of psychology
training at New York’s Montefiore Medical Center. “This can lead to being
highly creative when it comes to problem-solving.” While extroverts may seem to
snatch up more recognition in the corporate world, introverts should trust the
way they naturally process information. If they feel the need to spend time
alone, reflecting on ideas, they should do so. In fact, Rego says, introverts
might consider creating opportunities to maximize this skill during the
workday, such as planning the occasional break to recharge on their own,
volunteering for tasks or projects that involve fewer team members or asking
for one-on-one meetings with key players.
Practice Effective Listening
“Introverts are good
listeners,” says psychotherapist Tina B. Tessina. “They may not be facile
talkers, but introverted people usually know how to really listen.” And it’s
this skill that research has shown can make introverts better leaders than
extroverts, especially when their employees are naturally proactive. An
extroverted leader of a team of extroverts can get so caught up in expressing
his own thoughts that he fails to listen to or act on the ideas his team is
proposing. An introverted leader, however, is more likely to listen to and
process the ideas of his extroverted team. The listening skills of introverts
can be advantageous in their personal lives as well. Introverts, says
psychologist Simon Rego, “can be very effective listeners -- particularly in
one-on-one situations with their partner, which can enhance emotional intimacy
Form Deeper Connections
“While introverts do
not enjoy large social situations,” says Jene Kapela, principal and founder of
Jene Kapela Leadership Solutions, “they do enjoy smaller gatherings of close
friends and tend to develop deep and meaningful relationships with others.”
Psychologist Simon Rego points out that, “Most introverts can recognize this
quality in themselves and set up social events that meet this need.” An
introvert might, for example, plan a small-scale dinner party or arrange more
one-on-one engagements rather than large group events. These smaller gatherings
can allow for longer, more meaningful conversations, leading to deeper
connections and greater understanding of others.
“Introverts have no
problem pushing through tough deadlines that require complete isolation to
achieve results,” says executive coach Farrah Parker. “They will stay in the
house for an entire weekend if it means meeting a goal and succeeding.” Unlike
the gregarious extroverts, when introverts are sequestered for an extended
period of time working on a project, they will “rarely feel as though the world
has left them behind simply because they are not literally outside and
engaged,” Parker says. Leadership coach Jene Kapela agrees. “Introverts enjoy
working alone and are quite comfortable and happy in a solitary working
environment,” she says. As a result, they tend to have an advantage focusing
their attention on one thing for an extended period of time without getting
distracted, she says.
Take Time in New Situations
Many of us could
learn from an introvert’s tendency to take his time in new circumstances.
Introverts don’t immediately jump into the deep end of the pool when faced with
a new situation, says psychotherapist Tina B. Tessina. “They go very slowly and
size up the state of affairs before making any moves.” Introverts will often
wait until they’re approached rather than approaching new people. They will wait
and consider their options, resulting in a more appropriate course of action
than if they had leapt into the fray with less forethought. “Introverts tend to
think more before acting or speaking,” says psychotherapist Jeremy Schwartz.
“Extroverts, on the other hand, are more likely to talk and act as they are
Circumvent the Inessentials
Introverts are more
likely to remain unaffected by innuendo, gossip and social angst borne of
relationships -- romantic or otherwise -- at work, says psychiatrist Taliba M.
Foster. “The introvert isn’t necessarily taking long lunches with co-workers,
stepping outside for ‘join-me’ smoking breaks or engaging in the extended
personal telephone conversations that cost employers billions in man-hours.”
For these reasons, she says, introverts may be seen in a positive light by
managers and employers. “Introverts may be viewed as dependable professionals
who are too focused on their responsibilities to participate in petty office
interplay or social agendas created by co-workers,” Foster says. “Managers may
see the introvert as trustworthy and more likely to abide by workplace
protocols (such as confidentiality) than an extrovert or office socialite.”
Introverts are often
very powerful in their verbal communication because they tend to avoid
conversation that’s not applicable to the experience or situation, as
psychiatrist Taliba M. Foster learned firsthand. “Early in my career I was
concerned that I would struggle with introverted patients,” she says. “I
thought, ‘What will I do with a clinical hour full of silence? Will we have a
staring contest? Will I spend more time talking than my patient?’ I learned
quickly, to my delight, that I would just listen.” This talent of focusing on
the subject at hand and being concise often helps her introverted patients
arrive at personal resolutions quicker than extroverts, she says. “Extroverts
tend to talk about everything with a grandiose and avoidant flair, while the
introvert is less likely to waste time.”
What are some things
you’ve learned? Are you -- or someone in your life -- an introvert?
Maybe if you’re an extrovert you feel a little
see how good your memory is and maybe adopt a few of these values.
THE HAPPY PERSON IS OFTEN CONSIDERED SUPERFICIAL
AND THE INTROVERTS AT TIMES TO BE SHY
NOW YOU HAVE SOME GEMS FROM BOTH THESE PEOPLE
I FEEL BLESSED AND PRIVILEGED TO LEARN FROM THEM